Thursday, February 24, 2011

A Child Advocate's Urge

As an advocate for children for my entire adult life (well, probably for my entire life!) I have always loved the poem, An Urgent Note To My Parents. Occasionally I feel an ‘urge-to-share’ coming on, -and I’m feeling it now- so just in case you haven’t read that poem, here it is! Enjoy.

An Urgent Note To My Parents

Don’t ask me to do what I can’t do
Only ask me to do what I can
Don’t ask me to be what I can’t be
Only ask me to be what I am
Don’t one minute say “Be a big girl!”
And the next “You’re too little for that!”
PLEASE don’t ask me to be where I can’t be
PLEASE be happy with right where I’m at.
                                                     Hiawyn Oram

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Less and More

Clearing out clutter over the weekend, I came across an old scrapbook with a wonderful list of Health Rules I had copied from a book of Japanese sayings (in English, of course!) It epitomizes the de-cluttering mode I was (and am) in – a prefect ‘pin-up’ for my fridge! Here we go:

Less meat - More vegetables
Less salt - More vinegar
Less sugar - More fruit
Less eating - More chewing
Less clothing- More bathing
Less talk - More deeds
Less greed - More giving
Less worry - More sleep
Less riding - More walking
Less anger - More smiles

Happy day!!!

Monday, February 7, 2011

One Great AHA Moment

The father of a friend recently had a heart attack and was told to stop smoking – immediately! ‘Cold turkey!’ That’s not easy. I know, because I did it myself once and though it’s more than twenty years ago, I remember it very well!
The hardest thing about no longer smoking was the ‘foggy brain’ I got; the clarity of mind I had felt when I smoked, seemed to elude me without. That is, until I happily discovered that when I took a deep breath in, followed by a lengthy exhale, it didn’t matter that there was no nicotine filling my lungs, the much needed clarity of mind followed swiftly thereafter! Turned out, it was as much the deep breathing that had made me feel calm and focused as anything! What an aha moment!
I often wonder how many smokers are aware of this, of the significance of the inhale and exhale, of just the breath? Over the years, as I’ve shared this information with clients, many have used the knowledge to quit smoking very successfully. Most recently, one told me; ‘Whenever I feel the need for a cigarette, I just take a deep breath in, exhale in the same way I would have with a cigarette, and keep doing it until the craving goes away. It usually only takes three breaths!” Deep breathing, it seems, is good for more than ‘merely’ managing stress and emotions (although some would say managing a craving, is just managing another emotion.)
(PS: I hear my friend's father is managing well. I wonder if he's used the breathing thing?)